shopping trip observation

Saturday my mom and I went shopping in Dothan. She was looking for a gold candle ring that she just had to have...(it's a need, right up there with food and water.) Anyways, so we looked at Pier 1, and we had no luck. She said it was either at Michaels, Stein Mart, Kohls, or Inside Accents.

Let me remind you that it is a Saturday afternoon...about 2 and a half weeks before Christmas....in the busiest part of Dothan. Oh, and for those who don't know, I love shopping. and for those who can't tell, that statement is dripping with sarcasm. I definitely have to be in the mood to shop, and I just wasn't really in the mood to look at 4 stores for Christmas decorations, especially when we don't need any! I mean, come to my house, it's basically a winter wonderland without real snow.

However, my mother did not seem to care about my opinion. So we left Pier 1, and started off to the next store. Then my mom remembered that she needed to buy my 2 year old cousin a baby doll, so we made a quick turn and pulled into toys r us. I honestly haven't been there in years. We went in and finally found a Cabbage Patch kid that was the same hue as my cousin and didn't have the name Alfondina Alsya (that really was the name of a light hair, blue eyed white baby). So we bought the doll named Sharon Naomi, and left the store. When we got in the car and pulled out of the parking lot, I shared an observation with my mom.

See in toys r us, we saw a lot of parents. I especially saw a lot of moms. Then when we were leaving, I saw 3 SUVs with women driving them. They all were alone, and all looked like they were on a mission. My observation/ question that I shared with my mom was I wonder how many of those women are shopping for their kids who believe in Santa Claus and expect to get those presents on Christmas day. and how many of those moms feel unappreciated and lonely as they buy for their kids and probably don't get much thanks. I know that the joy on the child's face on Christmas will bring the parents joy, but still. Then my mom said, "they probably feel lonely as they shop and then they'll get home today and have to clean up the house, cook dinner, and do laundry. See what you have to look forward to?!"

Now don't think my mom is trying to make me not want to have kids, or make me feel like my brother and I were burdens as children. And we all know that Wesley and I were appreciative children because I found out about Santa from my sweet big brother when I was the young age of 5. (but I'm not bitter). I think she was saying you can't give and expect anything in return. Whether independent, professional women like to admit it or not, the role of women in the household has been and probably always will be the keeper of the house. Laundry, cooking, cleaning, etc. And I'm sure many women get lonely as they do their motherly duties. I don't know what goes on because I'm not a mother, but I hope I will be one day. I'll just have to remember Hebrews 13:5 when we're reminded of God's love, and he promises never to fail us or abandon us. Don't know about you but that gives me the warm fuzzies.

By the way, we did find that candle thing...and it goes so well with the other festive decorations...

So today has been a great day! and it's only 10 35! See I got in bed at 10 15 last night, which is a record for me for sure. I slept until 8 30, took a shower, got ready, and was about to walk out the door when I decided I didn't want to go to class. It's theory lab, I don't think I'll miss too much. If I do oh well, I got a chance to chill a little today. I've just been reading, studying, writing, blogging, etc. It's pretty awesome. But don't worry, I won't make a habit out of it.

I'm pretty excited about this Friday! See, I haven't seen my best friend Caitlin Marie Shepherd since before school started, and I'm having serious withdraws! I'm supposed to meet her at the fair on Friday and I can not wait! I love her and miss her very much... =( We've been best buds since like 3rd grade and we've never had a fight. I know I can depend on to be there for me when I need somebody to talk to, or if I ever need anything at all. She's a ray of sunshine and I love being around her. She's not afraid to tell me what she thinks about anything, and I absolutely love that. Her opinion is very important to me, especially on the subject of guys. =) luckily she likes Wesley Wells! Anywho, I just can't wait to see her!! I couldn't ask for a better Bee Eff Eff.

So as a started this week yesterday, I thought it was going to be a stinkin' drag. But God has definitely shown me that I need to trust Him and that deciding how I think my week is going to turn out within the first few hours of that week is stupid. He knows all, and I know nothing. HE's basically amazing, and He has blessed me beyond comprehension. The week is only as bad as I let it be, or imagine it to be!

Have a blessed day!

a rose by any other name

Last Friday was October 19, 2007. aka...mine and Wesley's four monther. =) precious, I know. Well we planned to leave when I got off work at 4 30, grab some food, and head to the beach just to chill ( I don't do much of that). Anyways, I got in my room from a long afternoon of answering phones and saying "Enrollment Services. How may I direct your call?", and talked to Ashley for a second. Then I looked over and low and behold...I had roses on my desk! That sweet Wesley...so thoughtful. I don't think I could have asked for a better one! The roses were so pretty and full of color. They're just appealing to the eyes. I really did appreciate his sweetness.

Well yesterday, I woke up and they were all wilted...=( sad day...(they stunk too). But I had heard before if you spray hairspray on them and hang them upside down that they will keep the color and last a really long time. So I poured out the water, pulled off the excess leaves, and saved the prettiest ones. One thing that I noticed that makes the beautiful roses somewhat of an eye sore (and finger sore) is the thorns. I just don't get what the purpose is. But oh well. I'm still waiting on the results of the hairspray experiment...

So back to the thorn thing. In Christian Worldview today, Dr. Rob said that if he was Adam, the would bring Eve the prettiest roses everyday, afterall they wouldn't have thorns on them. The class was confused and he said "Don't you remember? Thorns didn't come until after the Fall."
Genesis 3:17-18 says...

"And to the man he said

'Since you listened to your wife and ate from the tree whose fruit I commanded you not to eat, the ground is cursed because of you. All your life you will struggle to scratch a living from it. It will grown thorns and thistles for you, though you will eat of its grains.'"

So because of the sin of Adam and Eve, the earth has thorns. Adam and Eve represent all of the human race so basically because of our sinfulness, thorns have cursed the earth. The thorns represent our sin. And where else do we see thorns in the Bible, boys and girls? That's right...
When Jesus was being mocked before he was crucified. The Romans put a crown of thorns on His head to mock His claim of being the King of the Jews.

Matthew 27:29 says...

"They wove thorn branches into a crown and put it on his head..."

I mean, I pricked my finger with a thorn and it hurt, but on the head?? and I seriously doubt those Roman soldiers were kind hearted and gently placed it on Jesus' head. It makes me cringe just thinking about the pain.

Anyways, let me try to piece together the puzzle I have created so that you can experience the realization I had today in class. If the thorns represent the Sin we have as humans, and Jesus was crowned with thorns, it's like a literal illustration of Jesus taking on our sins and bearing them for us. It shows how our sins caused Jesus so much pain. Now obviously, just believing that Christ was crowned with thorns isn't the way to salvation. It's believing and confessing that he DIED a HORRIBLY PAINFUL death, and rose 3 days later to tell about it, and to tell his followers to tell about it. (it being God's amazing and truly awesome power and love) It was just a cool connection for me.

Everytime I see a rainbow, I thank God for pretty colors, rain, and His promise not the flood the earth ever again. From now on, every time I see a rose, I will thank God for His simple, yet beautiful creation, His mercy on me, and the sending of His Son to bear my sins in pain. Thank you God! (and I don't think I'll ever complain about being pricked by thorns ever again...)

Busy, busy, busy....I feel like that's all I know anymore. When I have spare time, I know there's something I should be doing. It's so hard for me to just chill, and not worry about something. Like today for instance...I'll have an hour this afternoon to do something, but other than that I'm busy the whole day. I have a paper to write, a book to read, and a God to spend time with. Finding time for those things can be hard at times. It should be easy to spend time with God, but unfortunately I end up thinking about what I need to do the rest of the day. I just need to sit...in silence...and focus on Him.

How often do I sit in silence? I can tell you. Unless I'm up at midnight studyining and my roommates asleep, I dont sit in silence. Why? That's a darn good question. But I think it's in the silence that God reveals to us what He wants to show us. When I stop worrying, thinking, and trying to solve the world's problems, that's when I can humble myself, listen to Him, and soften my heart to let His word sink in. It's not easy for this busy girl who has too much to do, but that's what makes it all the more worthwhile. When I can set time aside and spend time with my Lord, I find strength in Him to face the day. Isaiah 40:30-31 says it all...

"Even youths will become weak and tired,
and young men will fall in exhaustion.
But those who trust in the LORD will find new strength.
THey will soar high on wings like eagles.
They will run and nont grow weary.
They will walk and not faint. "

Scattered words and empty thoughts
Seem to pour from my heart
I've never felt so torn before
Seems I don't know where to start

But it's now that I feel
Your grace fall like rain
From every finger tip, washing away my pain

Cause I still believe in Your faithfulness
Cause I still believe in Your truth
Cause I still believe in Your Holy Word
Even when I don't see, I still believe

Though the questions still fog up my mind
With promises I still seem to bear
Even when answers slowly unwind
It's my heart You seem to prepare

But it's now that I feel
Your grace fall like rain
From every finger tip, washing away my pain

Well, the only place I can go is into Your arms
Where I throw to You my feeble prayers
Well, in brokenness I can see that this was Your will for me
Help me to know that You are near


Still Believe-Jeremy Camp

We don't always understand what God's doing in our lives. Sometimes we feel that the whole world around us is crashing down. It may feel like we're alone in the world, but He hasn't left us. He never will. When we go through those times of trials and hardships, God is preparing our hearts for something great, something that we probably won't see in our time of pain or brokenness. But it will become clear in God's timing. So cling to God, cry out to Him, trust Him and seek His will wholeheartedly. It might be hard, but it takes faith.

"Trust in the LORD with all your heart; do not depend on your own understanding. Seek his will in all you do, and he will show you which path to take." Proverbs 3:5-6

What if?

This blog may not make sense to anyone but me...but that's okay! Confusion and complexity is part of life.

Sometimes when I'm bored, or doing something that doesn't require much brain activity, I do some heavy duty thinking. Usually my thinking leads to "what ifs". Like what if I'd done this different, or what if I had said what I really thought in that situation. It makes me wonder what life would be like...what I would be like. Would I be happier? would I be less stressed? would I be more stressed? What kind of person might I be?

And usually after the what ifs I start seriously analyzing past experiences. I have a crazy memory, so I remember small details more than I do the obvious ones. I tend to remember moods, demeanors, and facial expressions more than I remember the words that were said. strange, huh? anywho...after much analyzing and thinking, it's like a light bulb comes on. Most of the things that I didn't understand at that time become clear. There's clarity and understanding.

THEN after that part of my thinking process, there is a fork in the road. Depending on the situation, my train of thought could go 2 ways. 1) I could look back on my past experience, smile at the good and happy times, learn from the hard and bad times, and move on with life. OR 2) Look back and think....what in the world was I thinking? I was so stupid, how did I not see that? How naive could I get??? What did I miss out on b/c I made that decision???........If I pick choice 2, I go right back to the beginning at the what ifs...it's a never ending cycle that leads to anxiety, stress, and possible depression. Why do I do this to myself? Who knows.

The only solution to this problem is found in Romans 8:28.
"And we know that God causes everything to work together for the good of those who love God and are called according to his purpose for Him."
Basically, God has a purpose and plan for my life. It doesn't matter how bad or hard things get for me, or how ignorant and stupid I am. I firmly believe everything happens for a reason. At the time it may not be obvious, and that might confuse us measly little humans. BUT our GREAT BIG GOD knows exactly what's happening, how it's happening, and why it's happening. He also knows what's going to happen. So why should we confuse ourselves by asking what if and wondering if our lives are going to turn out right? It just causes gray hair, fear, and worry. If we love God and live for Him, we have nothing to worry about. He'll take care of us, and watch out for us. Now if I can just remember to not wonder what if...

Joy Joy Joy Joy down in my heart...

How often do we say something only later to regret it? Or how often do we hear only what we want to hear, and don't listen long enough to get the WHOLE story? How about jumping to conclusions and finding ourselves angry at nothing?

I can't count the number of times I've commented on something without knowing the whole story, or maybe put someone down without taking their feelings into consideration. I'm also guilty of not listening to the whole story and having selective hearing. And man, am I good at jumping to conclusions, and getting frazzled about minor things. It's said that hindsight it 20/20. I'd have to agree. Looking back on some situations on my life, I see that life would have been a lot more pleasant had I shut up, listened , and calmed down.

I was reading in James yesterday and I ran across James 1:19...
" Understand this, my dear brothers and sisters: You must all be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to get angry."

How much smoother would life be if we all did this?? Um... I'm not a genius, but I going to go ahead and assume that life would be easier if we all would follow those instructions. As I look back over the past year or so, I see sooo many instances in my life where I became angry; so many miscommunications and misunderstandings. These could have easily been avoided had I been quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to get angry. I heard someone say once that many times when we are angry, it goes back to selfish ambitions. Something didn't go the way we thought, or we were inconvenienced by something. We jump to conclusions without knowing the whole story.

So to achieve this goal of being quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to anger, we must be selfless. The key to JOY is Jesus, Others, and then yourself. If it's in any other order than that, it's gonna be a bumpy ride. When I do look back on those frustrating times in my life, I see how selfish I was. Don't get me wrong, I am in NO WAY perfect. I still struggle with selfishness. But I can see where I have grown in my relationships. I've matured in my relationship with God, which in turn has matured and strengthened my relationships with others, and the importance of "self" in my life has decreased. Hopefully as I continue to grow in my relationships, the more selfless I'll become.

Settling?...

I'm the kind of person that is pretty laid back, go with the flow, easy going. Sure, I get mad, or upset sometimes. But when it comes to making choices and decisions, my personal philosophy is if it doesn't matter in the grand scheme of things, it doesn't matter, and shouldn't be made a big deal. For example, what resturant to eat at, what store to shop at for prom dresses, what flavor tooth paste to get...etc. I usually just pick something and I am perfectly content with it. Sometimes I settle for whatever's convenient and easy, even if there's something I'd like better.
The drawback is that sometimes this content attitude in the little things pours over into the big things. Things that determine my future.

Last summer, I had no idea what I wanted to do with my life. So I started praying hard and digging in the Word. I considered psychology, early childhood education, and music. The more I prayed and read, the more I felt God calling me to go into music at the University of Mobile. I don't know why. Music is definitely one of my passions, so I decided that I would take a step of faith and trust God to use me however He would.

Well lately I've been wondering if that's really where I'm supposed to go. Maybe I'd be happier staying in Headland and going to Wallace. I'm sure God could used me here too. I was thinking about that today, and it occurred to me that I just settling. Not that Wallace is bad, or the people that go there are settling for mediocrity. But for me personally, I think that by staying here, I would be missing out on some of what God has for me. It's a test of my faith. I know it's not going to be easy leaving home, meeting new people, changing life completely. But that's where God comes in. He's my comforter.

So that's what I'm going to do. I don't know what the future holds for me. I don't know what I'm going to be when I grow up, or who I'm going to marry, or where I'm going to live. but I know that God will take care of me and guide me if I seek his will.

"We can make our plans,
But the Lord determines our steps."
-Proverbs 16:9